27 Apr 2017

What kinds of Questions will you be asked at Your first Meeting?

Here is a short list of questions I typically ask during a meeting with a couple. I think these are just some of the things your Officiant might want to know to understand what your needs are.  Answering these questions will make it easier for a meaningful, personalized and unique wedding ceremony to be created. It is best to be open and honest so the Officiant can understand your needs.

1.   Tell me how you met.

2.  Are you Religious, Spiritual or non-religious?   What is your religious background?   Is religion important to you?

3.  Regarding religion; Is there anything you defiantly do or don’t want to include in the ceremony?

4.  Describe your perfect Officiant.  Have you experienced problems with an Officiant?

5.  How long do you want your ceremony to be?

6.  Speaking; are you comfortable speaking in public or do you want to keep it to a minimum?

7.  Writing; do you want to write vows to one another?  If you wish to write your vows but not read them to each other, you can repeat after the Officiant.

8.  Are you interested in any of the rituals that can go on during a wedding such as sand, rose’s exchange, wine sharing, candle lighting?

9.  Are you planning to use a runner?  Please note:  these don’t work well on uneven surfaces such as grass or outside.  Save your money! Use rose petals, they are prettier!

10.  Are you including music?  Such as a vocalist or music that will play while I am speaking.  Please note: music and speaking don’t go well together; unless I use a microphone.

11.  Is anyone doing a reading?

12.  Describe your guests and your family.  How many are planning to attend?

13.  Have you worked out the processional and recessional? Will it include formal seating of parents and grandparents?

14.  Describe your relationship – What do you think the key for you to live a long and happy life together will be?


Sandra Lynch

Sandra Lynch, a Wedding Officiant who officiates weddings in the Mid-Atlantic region is Owner of Ceremony Alchemy (formerly, Weddings by Sandy), creator of the Perfect Officiant Mentoring an Officiant mentoring service author of, “You CAN have the Perfect Wedding Ceremony,” and the Perfect Officiant Handbook. Ms. Lynch is retired military and lives in Frederick, Maryland with her husband Tim Lynch and their two fur babies Skipper and Ziggy.

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